NO WAY! Exit only! It hurts too much!
I like to push boundaries with people. At least to the effect that I hope it causes them to recheck where they’re at and make sure those boundaries are still good for them.
So when I was playing “Who’s the Biggest Pervert?” with a couple of friends (I think I lost, but I’m completely ok with that), and an anal sex question came up and one of my friends let out a resounding “NO WAY! Exit only! It hurts too much!” I felt like I needed to comment, “You know it’s not supposed to hurt and there are ways to minimize that risk.” She just continued, eyes closed, shaking her head, “Still won’t do it! Nuh-uh! Never!”
Long story short, the only time anything had been attempted, “Back there” it didn’t go well at all. As a penis wielder, this bothers me. I think that wielders of penis shaped objects of all shapes, sizes, and materials, factory installed or after market, owe it to those we use them on the wield them in a safe manner that minimizes negative risks and maximizes their pleasure. So if you’re wanting to try something new, like anal, get informed on how to make the best of it, otherwise it may go bad and then both you and your partner are missing out on the potential fun times to be had. You owe it to yourself and your partner, imagine all the fun they could’ve had if it had gone well!
So while I wasn’t expecting to change her mind on trying anal again (and I didn’t), I did get her to at least acknowledge that she didn’t have to feel any pressure to try it again, but that her experience wasn’t a good example of the potential.
Sex Ed Steve 